How to take care of yourself in a way you never have before
I regularly take time to reflect because over the years I learned that daydreaming nourishes me. Now, I make it a conscious practice and create space for it. This is me on a walk at the beach recently. I like the symbolism that I am in front of the bars – free!
What does “Self-Care” mean to you?
Often when I ask my clients this, they say massages, hair appointments, exercising and eating healthy, going to sleep early.
These are all great ways to take care of yourself and they are definitely a part of self-care.
However, what do you notice about the above list? They are all self-care for the physical body.
What about the spiritual body? The emotional body? And the mental body?
The expression of radical self-care is to honor and integrate all aspects of self and engage in activities that nourish the physical body and emotional, spiritual, and mental bodies.
Radical Self-Care means I honor myself as valuable and my actions reflect this.
It’s radical because so many of us do not do this. We give our power away to others constantly, then end up feeling resentful. And we don’t know what to do about it.
What to do about it is to practice Radical Self-Care.
When I practice radical self-care it includes setting and maintaining boundaries that uphold my highest self. It means I express empathy and care about others while at the same time not giving away my power.
This is the mindset: “You are important AND I am important.” Not one OR the other. Selfishness is “only I am important” and Martyrdom is “only you are important.” Neither of these truly feel good because in either scenario, someone is not being honored. Because we are all connected energetically, we experience the hurt either way.
Let’s be clear. To honor yourself and another does not mean everyone gets what they want in the moment. The child within each of us will scream and shout and pout and want what we want. And be pissed that we didn’t get it sometimes. We can love this part of us and love this part in another.
But we do not need to give in to it.
The highest self within each of us is the part I am speaking about. The part to care for, nurture, and develop. She is the fullest expression of ourselves and she need nourishment, attention, and love to thrive.
Radical self-care is a practice.
We will mess up sometimes. Then, we get to love ourselves for that moment and try again.
Putting structures into place to nourish all aspects of you is a great way to start. It about engaging in these practices consciously.
What structures do you have in place to nourish yourself spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically? You may already have practices that are working for you. If so, great! Continue them. If not, and you would like some suggestions, here are a few:
To nourish the Spiritual Body:
- Opening your chakras/balancing your energy
- Listening to your intuition and following her
To nourish the Emotional Body:
- Feel your feelings without judging them; empathizing with others’ without taking them on
- Creative expression as a healthy outlet for emotional and self-expression
- Connecting with others and expressing love
- Setting and maintaining boundaries
To nourish the Mental Body:
- Reading on topics that light you up
- Engaging in stimulating discussions
- Asking questions, employing curiosity
- Learning something new
To nourish the Physical Body:
- Moving your body in a way that feels good for you
- Eating foods that make your body feel light and healthy
- Regular appointments with the dentist, healer, doctor, chiropractor, hair dresser
- Listening to your body and honoring her needs
On every journey, you must prepare yourself for the trek, the climb, the sun, the rain. You pack necessities that support you in getting to where you want to go.
On the journey to fulfilling your potential, these are your necessities. This is what you need to do to prepare: practice Radical self-care.
How will you begin today? Share with us below by clicking on “leave a reply”.
To fulfilling your highest potential.
With light and love,
Nicole Justine Cavanaugh