Simple is good because it allows you to focus on what really matters.
Sometimes, in the midst of chaos, I find out that I am just making things too complicated. And it doesn’t need to be that way.
There are two ways I complicate things.
1. I fight against myself. I make a decision, and then try to talk myself out of it. Or I weight the options back and forth until I get a headache. Then, I fight with myself about how long this is taking.
Decision making can be really complicated. If you want to make it that way. Like choosing toothpaste in the grocery store. Why there are a million kinds of toothpaste is beyond me. It makes be want to rebel and just not brush my teeth (and I am quite into hygiene, so this is a bold statement). So, I can either stand paralyzed in the aisle and freak out over all the options, weighing this and that in my mind, and the possible benefits and consequences of each selection. Or I can reach for the one I know I like and be on my merry way.
Life is full of millions of choices. Eventually, you just have to make some decisions, and be ok with them. There is a simplicity and freshness in accepting your choices, being happy with them, and moving forward. When you truly commit to your decision, you are free to actually enjoy it.
SOLUTION: Stop second-guessing myself. Follow my intuition, and then trust it.
Then, there is the second way I complicate things:
2. I waste time doing unnecessary things – and I don’t even know I am doing it! It’s one thing to be consciously wasting time (but that’s another topic for another day). It’s another to be totally involved something that, in the scheme of things, just isn’t that important. But it seems important in the moment. So, how do you sift out the sneaky time wasters that make things complicated and send you into overwhelm?
SOLUTION: Just stop for a second and ask yourself, What do you need in this moment? This helps me tune into what’s really going on in that swirly mess inside. And then I can sort it out, and be aware of my real priorities. It’s a way to delete the crap in the moment, and be able to see a bit more clearly.
We all want simplicity so we can enjoy our lives more, instead of focusing on the unnecessary crap. What is bottles down to is that you can simplify your life just by tuning into yourself and trusting yourself. When you know that you are going to be ok, that you can handle whatever life throws at you, the complication melts away.