“I often notice people competing for who had the worst day,who has the most going on in their lives, who is the most stressed. It’s like some bizarre award we want to claim. Let the other person have it.”
~Nicole Justine Cavanaugh
Here is the secret to juggling everything:
We live in a world where we are expected to do – and be – everything. And then we wonder why we are so stressed
Yes, you have a lot of commitments, people to be accountable, work to do, etc. I’m not saying you don’t. And I’m not saying that they aren’t important.
But to be the most of who we can be, we need to streamline where put our energy. Which means doing less, and with more focus, presence, and mindfulness.
It comes down to priorities. And priorities are not static. So, you will go in phases where spending time with friends and family is most important and you will spend your time and energy doing that. There will be phases where you will need to go inward and do some soul-searching. So, that is where to put your energy. There will be times when work is most important – you have a deadline or a big project that is going to take most of your focus for a period of time.
That’s all ok. Be gentle with yourself. Notice what your expectations are and if you are entering into black and white thinking. And most of all, let go of any judgment you are putting on yourself for what you choose. Choose, then let go.
Balancing your life – and your energy – is a full of tweaks and adjustments.
ACTION –> Do this now: Stand up. Then stand on one foot. Keep your balance. What do you notice?
Likely, your foot on the ground is wobbling a tiny bit around the ankle, right? Balance is not a destination. It is a process. It is about making those tiny adjustments to keep yourself in harmony.
So, if you are finding you have a lot on your plate at any one moment, prioritize. What is most important now? Focus on 1-2 things, then delegate or let go of the rest. Give yourself permission to not have to do it all, all the time. You can’t. It’s healthy to recognize where you burnout point is – and stop the train wreck before it happens.
I often notice people competing for who had the worst day, who has the most going on in their lives, who is the most stressed. It’s like some bizarre award we want to claim. Let the other person have it. Go for the real gold: be the more peaceful, balanced, harmonious person, with less on her plate and a more joyful life!
You may have noticed I haven’t written my last two newsletters to you the last two weeks. I’ve had a lot on my plate recently and I had to let some things go. The newsletters were one of them. And I apologize for any negative impact that had on you. I couldn’t do it all. (yes, even life coaches have limits!)
So, be kind to yourself. List out your priorities for now. Let go of any judgment you have around what you have chosen, and just focus you energy on your priority at this time. Remember, you are always at choice.
Life isn’t static. And neither are you.
Until next time…
With love and light,
Nicole Justine Cavanaugh