5 “Winning” Questions to help you get to where you want to be now
Did you buy a Powerball ticket?
I confess I bought a few to see if I’d win the 1.5 billion jackpot.
As I was soaking in the bath the other night, checking the winning numbers to see if by any streak of luck I had won, I discovered that I hadn’t. And my reaction to this totally surprised me:
I was relieved.
This reaction was not what I had expected. Most people would assume that they’d be disappointed. But not me. I relaxed. And I realized, I had already won my own sort of lottery.
In even daring to think I might actually win, I gleaned valuable insights about myself that I wouldn’t have otherwise.
And I formulated them into questions for you to ask yourself, so you, too, can glean these valuable insights for yourself.
5 “Winning” Questions:
1. What would you do with 1.5 billion dollars? Allow yourself to dream – and write it all down. I allowed myself to dream freely and feel the expansion within myself (I’ve built this muscle over the years). Most of us don’t even allow ourselves to go there. We are afraid of the delight we might encounter – and then the crash of disappointment at not having that dream fulfilled. But you are doing yourself a disservice with this mentality. In allowing yourself to dream, you allow yourself to open up to your truth. Give yourself this gift now and dream fully and wildly.
2. What do you value? This will emerge from your dreaming. In allowing yourself to dream about what you’d do if you had that kind of cash, you discover what is really important to you. We spend our money on what we value most (and if you aren’t, what’s going on?). What do you value most? Would you share the money? With whom? Would you give to charity? Would you buy a house? Travel? Start a business? What kind?
3. Change your behavior now, with what you have. You don’t need 1.5 billion dollars to begin making poignant changes in your life. A long-standing dream of mine is to gather all my friends and family at a restaurant (this is a lot of people), let everyone order whatever brings them joy – and then pick up the entire tab. Am I in a place to do that now? No. But I am in a place to treat one person at a time. So, that is what I did. I had lunch with a friend this week and after we were done, I said, “this is on me.” It felt amazing.
4. Are you the person you want to be? Do you think of yourself as a giving person – but in your dream, you find you’d keep all the money for yourself? Do you think of yourself as a person who has solid boundaries – but in your dreaming, the fear arises that everyone would want the money and you’d have no way to say “no”? Notice what patterns emerge. Any drastic change in life – whether it be winning the lottery, discovering you have a life-threatening disease, are getting married or divorced – will highlight you patterns on a bigger level. So, who are you now? Are you who you want to be?
5. If there is healing to be done, begin your healing now. Another big realization for me in discovering my relief in not winning was that I value privacy. The idea of the whole world harassing me after winning such a record-breaking amount was entirely daunting. I love being able to walk around the streets with no one knowing who I am. However, as a child, I dream of being a famous actress. This push-pull desire between fame and privacy has haunted me for decades. After experiencing the relief of not winning, I now know in my heart, I don’t want fame or to be in the spotlight. And that is so soothing, to finally know that and let it go.
At the same time, an interesting inquiry arose as well: Am I limiting joy and abundance in my life? Many lottery winners’ lives are ruined after they win (some aren’t). One theory I have about this is that is was too much “Good” all at once. Their systems couldn’t handle it. And they destroyed themselves. Those who flourished were already solid in themselves, already willing to accept an up-leveling of their lives without sacrificing themselves at their core in any way.
Where are you on this spectrum? On a scale of 1-10, 10 being highest, how comfortable are you with the idea of getting everything you want in life? With allowing joy in? Love? Money? Prosperity? Health?
If you rank yourself low on this right now, there is healing to be done. If you rank yourself high – but don’t have the results yet, there is action to be done.
What are you waiting for? To win the lottery?
Until next time…
With love and light,
Nicole Justine Cavanaugh